One of the most frustrating things is that when you finally find someone who sweeps you off your feet, he either ‘doesn’t know what he wants’ or is ‘not ready for something serious.’ And you don’t know how to approach this situation because you like him, maybe more than any other man you’ve met before. You feel that crazy connection and don’t want to give up until you’ve tried everything you can to achieve romantic happiness with the one you desire so much. It’s sometimes so frustrating because the more effort you put in, the more distant he becomes. So, what should you do? How do you make him fall in love with you (even if he’s not serious)?
The kind of man you want by your side DOES EXIST. The man you long for, the one you’re compatible with, the one with whom there’s chemistry but also an intellectual connection. The one who will want something serious with you. But you need to know how to find him and show him that you are the THE ONE for him.
Are You in a Casual Relationship?
Relationships where you only see each other occasionally and don’t communicate daily are essentially casual relationships. These types of relationships can be especially frustrating for one person who has fallen in love and is doing everything to make it work. If you are that person, I know how you feel. Sometimes you hope that your relationship will grow into something more (because when you’re with him, it’s wonderful, isn’t it?), but soon all your hopes are dashed (when he disappears again, and you don’t know when he’ll reach out). What’s interesting is that a woman in love in this situation often makes all the wrong moves, keeping her stuck in place and living in hope that things will change.
I know, many people have told you to give up on him and find someone else, but you don’t want someone else, you want him. That’s why you keep waiting for him and hoping he will see how wonderful things are with you. And you’re afraid to give up on the little he offers because you believe that even that little bit is a chance for something more.
My dear, I have to tell you something: If you settle for crumbs, you’ll get only crumbs.
The good news is that the man you’re in a casual relationship with can fall in love with you, but NOT if you keep doing the same mistakes.
How do you make him fall in love with you (even if he’s not serious)? First of all, you need to start valuing yourself and stop settling for crumbs of attention and meeting on his terms. Then you need to know how to express your desires and set new standards in a way that motivates him to show you his best version.
Why Waiting for him Hopefully doesn’t Work
Many women spend even a decade of their lives waiting for love from a certain man, and this happens because they don’t understand when and why a man falls in love. Why he falls for one woman and not another. Why he offers everything to one immediately, and nothing to another for years. The answer is this:
In order to fall in love with a woman, he needs to feel that being with her makes him want to be better, braver, more ambitious, more successful. She makes him feel like he’s flying, she inspires him to be the best version of himself, and he is engaged around her and acts in his masculine energy, which makes him feel like a man. Conversely, a woman who is “waiting,” who agrees to everything or makes his path to her too easy, may be dear to him and physically attractive, but she doesn’t excite him on all levels like a woman he has to work for.
Therefore, he will reach out to the woman who waits only occasionally because he is only physically attracted to her, and he will leave her when a woman who knows how to motivate him to engage appears. So, if you’ve been the one waiting, it’s high time to abandon that unhappy pattern and become the woman he will fall in love with.
How do you make him fall in love with you (even if he’s not serious)? First of all, stop idealizing him. Take him off the pedestal and direct that attention towards yourself. The image you have of yourself directly affects what you will get in love and in life in general. If you’re waiting for someone for months, years, it means you don’t value yourself enough, and to gain the love and respect of the man you desire so much, you first have to start valuing yourself.
If You Want Him to Change, Then…
The thing is, even if you’ve chosen well, even if he’s a good man, that same man can place you in the casual category. Yes, even a man who really wants a relationship. Because a man knows and feels when a woman is waiting for him, and if she waits regardless of everything, he doesn’t value her enough. And that’s why he doesn’t feel excitement about the relationship.
The saddest part is that you don’t have to be desperate or boring to leave such an impression; just being always there, nearby… You’re energetically with him even when you’re not, waiting for him, constantly thinking of him, not opening up to other possibilities, hoping for him and scrutinizing his every move on social media. For the little happiness you sometimes experience with him, you think you have someone, but you actually HAVE NO ONE.
WHAT IF I TOLD YOU THAT EVEN THAT EVEN THAT MAN CAN FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU?
I’ve had situations where I helped numerous women transition from a casual relationship to a quality one. And it’s actually not that difficult. It’s a matter of perception. It’s about how you see yourself and how he sees you. How much you value yourself and how much value you have in his eyes.
And no, this isn’t a column about how to adapt to a man to make him like you – because that’s exactly what you’re doing and why he doesn’t see you as The One.
If You Want to Be His Priority, Prioritize Yourself
In the search for a partner, we must first start with OURSELVES and work on ourselves. If you’ve been going in circles, you’ve probably, like most single women, assumed that your love turnaround starts with finding and winning over THE RIGHT MAN. And of course, that’s the goal – at least when we’re talking about love plans, but it’s the WRONG ORDER of what we focus on. To find and win over the right man, we must first invest in OURSELVES. This doesn’t mean you need to be a successful, accomplished person to meet the right man, but your focus should be on WORKING ON YOURSELF, and only then on finding a partner.
Focusing on one man as your lifeboat creates a desperate energy because it affects your BEHAVIOR towards him. Even if it’s very subtle, that desperate struggle for one man is something a man can sense and it prevents him from falling in love with you. Here’s why:
He doesn’t want to be your focus UNLESS HE HAS EARNED IT. If he gets a privileged spot in your life that he hasn’t earned, he’ll enjoy the benefits of such a relationship but won’t offer you anything more than OCCASIONAL MEETINGS.
So, for him to fall in love with you, your value in his eyes must increase, and that won’t happen if you give him too much space in your life that he hasn’t earned.
How do you make him fall in love with you (even if he’s not serious)? He needs to know what you want and you need to give him enough space to be motivated around you.
Yes, a man who initially didn’t have serious intentions can change his mind.
Yes, it’s possible that in just a month or two, you could be in a completely different situation than you are now. It’s possible to connect on a deeper level with someone with whom there’s only physical attraction.
And yes, a man who initially didn’t have serious intentions can change his mind. I’ve explained this in detail in my bestselling book A Man in the Palm of Your Hand, which I believe every woman who wants happiness and success in love should read. The problem is that we often get in our own way and subconsciously sabotage ourselves.
So, if you’ve made these key mistakes that keep you stuck in casual relationships with the man you want, don’t worry – YOU ARE NOT ALONE. And you shouldn’t feel bad for not knowing better. It’s time to correct this and open the door to entirely new romantic experiences.
How do you make him fall in love with you (even if he’s not serious)?
Chasing or subtly chasing after a man you like doesn’t yield results. We’ve established that. Should you then be cold and distant? That’s another extreme many lovestruck women resort to in hopes of provoking a reaction from the man they’re seeing. When they see no reaction, they go back to their old ways and initiate contact with him, which again means he doesn’t have to do anything. All these unhappy attempts and games should be avoided because they don’t lead to commitment.
Ladies, for a man to want something more, he NEEDS TO KNOW what you want. And no, IT’S NOT EMBARRASSING to want a relationship. On the contrary, a woman who knows what she wants and expresses it the right way, without pressure, ultimatums, and games, will find it much easier to get there. It’s important not to insist on that particular man, no matter how much you like him.
To be happy in love, you need to prioritize the quality of the relationship over a specific man. Then it’s much more likely that even that man will start seeing you in a new light.
In other words:
Yes, a man who initially didn’t have serious intentions CAN CHANGE HIS MIND and accordingly CHANGE HIS BEHAVIOR, but for this to happen, it’s crucial that he receives the RIGHT DIRECTION from you. It’s important for him to know what you want but also to understand that he doesn’t have to be the one to provide it.
How to Make Him Fall for You (Even if He’s Not Serious)? First and foremost, you need to learn how to set new standards and clear boundaries. Let’s break it down with specific steps and examples.
Concrete Steps
In my bestselling book A Man in the Palm of Your Hand, a woman named Jessica found her self in a similar situation where the guy was very interested in her at first and than suddenly pulled back. Than the relationship became casual and she was desperate get him fall in love and want something serious.
If you are in that situation, than you need to know what to say when things are heading towards a casual relationship. For instance, if he tells you he’s not looking for anything serious, you can respond with:
“Thanks for letting me know. I’m looking for something more, a meaningful relationship, and I want to give myself a chance with someone who wants the same.”
or
“That’s totally fine; I appreciate your honesty. If we don’t want the same things in life, let’s just be friends.”
This is called setting proper standards (you’re clearly stating what you want) and setting boundaries (making it clear that you won’t settle for less). After that, it’s crucial not to revert to old patterns and not to accept the little bit that’s offered (because if he hasn’t offered a relationship by now, he likely won’t).
Keep This in Mind
Many men realize over time that they want to keep a woman (even if they initially had no serious plans), but the biggest issue is that many women can’t handle the uncertainty. They don’t give him enough space to take action, instead they are falling back into old behaviors, contacting him, sending messages, and making it easy for him to reach her. As a result, he doesn’t feel the thrill or drive to win her over, and he never experiences the emptiness of being without her. She’s always around, so he never falls in love with her.
But it doesn’t have to be this way. If you recognize yourself in this situation and keep making the wrong moves that keep you stuck in a cycle of casual relationships with the man you want, remember that IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY. It CAN BE DIFFERENT. You can become THE ONE for him.
How to Become THE ONE
I explain in detail how to become the One in my bestselling book A Man in the Palm of Your Hand – the easiest path to finding love and happiness with a quality man.
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“I wish I’d known this before” is a phrase I often hear from women who, after trial and error and numerous disappointments, finally find love and admiration from a man with EASE using the RIGHT APPROACH. It’s time for you, dear ladies, to achieve the same and see how little it takes to reach your desired results.
THIS TIME IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE HARD. THIS TIME IT CAN BE EASY, AND YOU’LL SOON FIND OUT HOW TO MAKE IT EASY.